HOW TO HELP PEOPLE HELP YOU

A wise colleague once drew the diagram below to illustrate the idea that, in any attempt at engagement, there are essentially three audiences at play: active, engaged and interested. They all have a relationship with you, but the dynamic of the relationship is different for each.

The active group are often valuable. But, whether well-informed or not, critics or constructive contributors, they are often the same vocal participants you would likely hear from no matter what. The engaged group are those who essentially watch but don’t speak. They pay attention but don’t feel either compelled or comfortable enough to actively contribute. And the interested group are those who may not even be aware that they have a vested interest in the discussion because they don’t see the relevance of it to their lives. But this doesn’t mean their input is potentially any less valuable.

The goal of effective communication, if you're serious about making something happen, is to move more of the interested and engaged toward the active group to expand that group beyond the usual suspects and build some critical mass. One important element in achieving that movement is to ensure the engaged and the interested understand the issue and its relevance to them. The simple truth is that people more actively involve themselves in things that matter to them if they are comfortable enough that they understand it. Note there is a difference between whether they actually do understand and whether they think they understand. Arguably, many of those who are actively involved already are less informed than they think or misinformed by others. And when that’s the case, what’s the value of their contribution?

So increasing actual understanding of what you do, how you do it and why can ultimately serve to:

• Ensure the actively involved are well-informed, adding greater value to their contributions and avoiding unnecessary confrontation.
• Reduce the barriers that potentially keep the engaged from actively participating. 
• Increase the likelihood that the interested will see the relevance of an issue to them, thereby making it more likely they will move to the engaged or active group.
• Overall increase the number and diversity of voices involved in any discussion.
• Build a more trusting relationship between you and all those involved.

Not that understanding is the be all and end all, but it is a necessary gateway to engagement. My wise colleague also talked about the need to provide what he called ladders of participation. By that he meant that once you have their attention and they have sufficient understanding to want to act, you need to give people ways to act. And, importantly, you need to give them more than one option. My colleague used the example of Greenpeace. There are those whose support for Greenpeace extends to a donation and wearing the Greenpeace t-shirt. Then there are those who are willing to chain themselves to a whaling ship in protest. And Greenpeace provides a range of participation options between those two extremes. Once you're engaged, you choose how to act.

These ladders are particularly important to help those seeking to move from engaged to active status. Options for how to participate do two important things:

1. They respect and empower the participant by placing a level of choice in their hands; and
2. They reduce the amount of courage required to become actively involved with you and your thing.

So know who your people are, and then help them become what you need.